Since Baby Boomers have
now become senior citizens, there's a problem that didnít exist
generations ago. How do mature individuals go about
meeting other mature individuals for love and/or companionship?
The good news for women is that they
live longer. Thatís also the bad news. There are
many more women looking for men than vice versa. And
because males fall apart sooner, there's now the concept of a
nurse with a purse. How many new brides
past retirement age suddenly find themselves reemployed as
caregivers? Why this should be so isnít known. Do
men work harder and so wear out sooner? Or maybe they live
more recklessly...not attending to their health while driving
faster, smoking more and drinking to excess. Or perhaps it's
because females are Mother Natureís default position?
Embryos start out female so males are a kind of hybrid and maybe
just naturally doomed to a shorter, less healthy life.
Anyway, all that aside, how do
older ladies go about meeting older gentlemen? One tip is
to look around for possible mates only when youíre doing
something you truly enjoy. If you like cats and antiques,
keep your eyes open at cat shows and antique shops. That
way youíll already have something in common with anyone you
meet. Of course you'll see lots of men at a baseball game but
how much do you really want to learn about batting averages and
stolen bases? One woman told me that because men seem
happiest around food, she never misses an opportunity to sit
near one at an eatery and ask about the chicken.
Then too, you might want to consider
visiting areas with high male to female ratios. Alaska
comes to mind but so do snow drifts and polar bears. After
visiting up north, one lady told me the odds are good but the
goods are odd. Considering such cultural differences,
my friend in Brittan (author Anthony Pardoe) tells me that while
the ratio isnít all that good, the society is such that itís
hard to meet available women. My wife, who knows about
such things, says Tony is a real catch. Tall and handsome
with humor and a full head of hair, he can fix a roof, iron a
shirt, play a tune and do a dance. Unfortunately, in the UK,
mature women learned that grandmothers didn't try to meet
grandfathers. It simply isn't proper.
Of course, match making has now become
big business complete with singles' cruises, on-line chat sites
and, of course, senior newspapers with PERSONALS for Men and for
Women. But while it may have gotten more professional,
donít let anyone tell you itís gotten any easier. Past a
certain age the women still outnumber the men and because the
male of the species isnít much rewarded for acquiring social
skills, the pickings can be slim. For that reason,
carrying a casserole to a widower might make sense. At
least you know heís been housebroken.
And should you think Iím taking this
lightly or that my approach is flippant, youíre dead wrong.
I can trot out all sorts of statistics showing that most humans
do best and feel best when theyíre in a happy relationship.
But who would doubt that?
Look At It This Way
It's been said that a woman can manage
much better without a man than vice versa. I canít
disagree. I was between wives once for about six minutes
and didnít like it at all. So if youíre a woman on the
loose (AWOL) and content with your situation, donít let anyone
talk you out of it or tell you about what you really need in